Here’s a lightly edited transcript of our conversation.I found it funny that the women you wanted to date just wanted hookups, since people always talk about men driving hookup culture.It’s almost as if people are individuals, you know? There were a lot of times I had intense feelings for someone, and it was always the woman who told me, “I just want to keep it casual.” What did these women say when you asked why they didn’t want more with you? It wasn’t like, “You have a weird laugh,” or “I don’t like the way you dress.” It wasn’t anything specific. Do you see it as a positive that our generation’s relationships are less defined than previous ones’? And some people see it as a good, liberating, freeing thing.By the time New York-based comedian Billy Procida was 24, he’d noticed a pattern: The women he hooked up with never wanted to get serious.A die-hard romantic, he didn’t understand what he was doing to disqualify himself from being relationship material.Each week, Procida interviews a different woman from his past about love, sex and where things went wrong between them.After reconnecting with them over Facebook, Linked In or email, he tapes himself and his exes candidly, often awkwardly catching up and gaining closure.And while he used to blame himself if something didn’t work out, he’s grown comfortable with the simple fact that not everyone’s a match.
In the process, his views on relationships have changed, he says.While he once evaluated each date as a prospective long-term partner, he’s now open to a variety of arrangements.