Although I personally prefer non-monogamy, I opted to write this article using a monogamous perspective since that seems to be the more popular relationship paradigm.
Given the frequency of cheating in monogamous relationships, it would appear that true monogamy isn’t as common as people would have each other believe.
In the USA alone, tens of millions of people cheat on their primary relationship partners. Most of the time when people cheat, they hide it from their partners, and they usually succeed in doing so, not because they’re so great at keeping secrets but mainly because their partners fail to recognize and acknowledge the telltale signs. Statistically speaking, if you get involved in committed relationships or marriage, the odds are better than 50-50 that you’re eventually going to cheat at some point in your life.
There’s still some shame and guilt associated with admitting the truth, even in private.
So instead of sharing a bunch of detailed stats that might be wrong, I’ll simply share the big picture elements.
I found it difficult to track down good cheating statistics.
The big game-changer here is the Internet, which makes even 10-year old stats seem very dated now.
Recents surveys suggest that most people have flirted online at one point or another, that when people spend time in chat rooms they’re usually motivated by romantic or sexual interest, and that about a third of adults have had real sex as a result of a connection that began online.
Slightly more than half of all married people will cheat on their spouses at some point in their lives.
Men apparently cheat more often than women, but the gap isn’t huge.
If you haven’t experienced it yet, there’s a good chance you eventually will.
In this article we’ll explore how often cheating occurs, how to define cheating, signs of cheating, and how to deal with it.