Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?
Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he’ll ever be violent; he already has been.” ― Lundy Bancroft, “Now let's move on to the subject of how a real man treats his wife.
He will just keep coming up with more demands because he believes his needs are your responsibility, until you feel drained down to nothing.” ― Lundy Bancroft, “The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers.
Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows many ways in which he has been good to her.
“YOUR ABUSIVE PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS ANGER; HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR ANGER.One of the basic human rights he takes away from you is the right to be angry with him.