Apart from feeling bad for them being socially impelled to take the initiative (with the exception of the rude ones who wouldn’t take no for an answer), I was struck by the arbitrariness of it all. You interact with the people who happen to be there, in the hope that one of them might be the sort of person you’d want to get to know better.After the last guy – who stood uncomfortably close, smelled overwhelmingly of something like Lynx Africa and looked like his shirt was sprayed on from a can – strode back to his friends in a huff at rejected advances, I’d had enough.Surely, I thought, being able to “swipe” through potential prospects prior to meeting them would minimise the agonising tension of rejecting or being rejected face-to-face, and eliminate complete mismatches.Online and app-based dating has changed the way we interact with each other.For all the stuff we joke about being awful in online dating (old profile pics, being able to find out too much about your date before meeting them), this is downright horrible and not funny at all: 28 percent of online daters have felt harassed or uncomfortable by someone who contacted them through a site.Women in particular were more likely to feel this way, with 42 percent saying they'd experienced such awful behavior.Eleven percent of Internet users have personally used an online dating site, but 59 percent agree that "online dating is a good way to meet people." That's a 15 point increase since a 2005 survey, so if you're online dating, you can rest assured that less than half of people are judging you for it now.
But I’d had enough of weird, often obnoxious strangers.
We’ve moved on from discomfort or embarrassment about using technology to connect with other people.