We choose the best man we believe we are worthy of. But if we keep that story in our heads…then we are simply avoiding facing the fake stories we tell ourselves and other possible realities.
I remember several years ago, being about 20 years old, and I was out with a group of girlfriends. At least not compared to the number of men who were interested in my friends. The men seemed interested in my girlfriends, but not me. Not that I was trying to actually figure it out; I was too busy feeling sorry for myself. He pulled his head right back and stepped away from me, taking one step back, literally. I remember walking away from that club where I was at, and weeks later, started to tell myself the boring story about how men don’t want to be in a relationship with me because they were intimidated by me. The reality is that attraction occurs when there is polarity.
As Jada Pinkett says; ‘no woman wants a man other women don’t want’.
In other words, women go for the man with the most status they feel they can get.
(Click here to take the quiz “How Feminine Am I Actually”)Achievements for appeal in a commitment relationships are for men; men compete with each other to achieve more and therefore gain more status.
Because we all secretly know unconsciously that women trade up and compare men all the time.
(Click here to get your Goddess Report)On this particular night, one nice young man did come up to me and introduce himself. Looking back, i now realise that it wasn’t that men were intimidated and THAT is why they didn’t or couldn’t be in a relationship with me. Ok.’ From that day on, I noticed that whenever I told men this, this particular reaction was not uncommon at all. Heh, Finally, I feel some sort of power in my life – I’m doing a LAW degree and you can’t compare to that!