Dalrock – I understand the warning to the younger women to avoid this path, and the warning to mentors/society to quit giving this advice, but for the single women in their early thirties that have previously bought into the standard make-yourself-interesting-and-have-a-career mentality (but not the sex in the city mentality) and since realized it’s a bunch of crap, what is your suggestion to them? I realize it’s a very unenviable position, but assuming good intentions and kind demeanor, what’s the best that can be done with what we have?I decided to respond to this in the form of a post largely because I hope to enlist my readers in this process as well.Depending on your field of employment you may find your best options are right in front of you.
A good way to do this is list what you would trade for what. This is true for men and women of any age looking to marry, but given the amount of focus on women in their 30s in this regard I suspect there is at least a kernel of truth to the stereotype.
Dating is generally a big ego boost and a lot of fun for women in their 20s, but unless a guy is a player dating tends to be the exact opposite for men in their 20s.