Many people look to Siddhartha Gautama as an example of someone who attained nirvana, a buddha. Every other week I'll take on a new question and give some advice based on what I think Sid, a fictional Siddartha, would do.
Each week in this column we look at what it might be like if Siddhartha was on his spiritual journey today. Like us, Sid is not yet a buddha, he's just someone struggling to maintain an open heart on a spiritual path while facing numerous distractions along the way. So let's take on the first question, from Justin: With so many people out there looking to meet other singles, it's no surprise that online dating has become a big trend.
In fact, I think he would say it's a perfectly valid way to meet people.
e Harmony, for example, claims on their homepage to be responsible for 2 percent of marriages in the United States today.
You basically take all the spontaneity out of who you can meet.
I haven't looked at many online dating statistics but would gladly bet money that couples who get together on these sites look eerily like old photos of both party's previous relationships.
They would say it's because of their advanced matching capabilities.
Why actually go out and risk face-to-face awkward encounters with strangers when you can browse the internet and discreetly check people out without their ever knowing?
And better yet, you don't have to ask them if they like the same books or movies you do -- it's all there on display!
In fact, I once went out to dinner with an ex and her new boyfriend that she met on match.com, and when placed across the table from one another, they new guy and I looked exactly the same with our fuzzy blondish hair, glasses, and matching turtleneck sweaters.
Even though I said all of the above, I don't think Sid would denigrate online dating.
Some people would say that dating sites are making dating simpler. I am X years old and this is how important it is that my partner be around the same age.
I think that they're making things a lot more complicated. Here's my level of education and here's how much money I make and here's how important it is to me that I date someone smarter/dumber/richer/more traveled/fatter than me.