And ladies, if you are confused about a man’s intentions—just ask him to clarify.
It’s your responsibility not to let him lead you on. Men, imagine what it would be like if we started stepping up and took dating seriously?
If we didn’t over spiritualize it, but started taking girls out on dates and even sweeping them off their feet?
Tell her kindly you won’t be calling anymore because you aren’t interested in a romantic relationship.It will sting a little for her, but it’s better than leading her on for months and her having 372 discussions with her friends.As I sat down with them to talk about life, I found something concerning: none of them were asking women out. Some had text-based relationships, but most of them were fearful of “messing up” or “ending up with the wrong one”. I’ve heard from Christian women that they either have said no to dating altogether (because the Christian guys don’t do any asking) or go on dates with men who aren’t Christians (because at least they are asking). I, too, was more of a prayer than a dater, until I had a number of older men sit me down and tell me to stop being afraid and take a girl to coffee. Real Christian men are needed to step up in this area. ” “What if I don’t like her after we date for a few weeks? Dating 101: Start by finding a girl who you think is interesting and attractive.This fear caused them to seldom date and keep female relationships plutonic and confusing. Ask any Christian woman over the age of 22 how she feels about Christian men’s dating game and she’ll most likely confirm what I’m witnessing. In looking for “The One”, Christian men can easily get caught not asking women out AT ALL because she might not be “The One”. (Novel idea, I know.) The issue that many men run into, I know I did, is over spiritualizing the dating process. ” Praying about your dating life is of course advised, but there is such a thing as too much praying. Ask her out in person or over the phone (no texting).
I’m really proud of him for conveying such a tough message! Why are you hiding behind prayers, vague intentions, group hangouts, and TEXT MESSAGES? If you are clearly leading her on step up and ask her out, or stop leading her on.I was talking with a group of Christian men the other day and was given astonishing insight into the current dating scene. I’ve found myself wondering how do I encourage my brothers to GET OUT THERE and date. Group hangouts are great, but find time for one on one where your intentions are clear.