Yet she swears he is the love of her life and she defends him!
His own family doesn’t seem to want much to do with him.
“We have always emphasized how important it is that he marry someone of our faith. At times, it can seem like the biggest mistake your child could make.
”A father is very upset with his son’s choice of partner. When young people are crazy in love, it can seem really crazy to the adults around them.
If we want to maintain the relationship with an adult child and to continue to participate in the family’s life cycle, it’s up to us to keep our heads and to model how to agree to disagree. Do not allow yourself to get defensive or angry or threatening. If nothing else, the fact that she is able to withstand your disapproval deserves some grudging respect. Let him know you wish he saw it your way but that you will do your best to embrace the person he cares so much about. If there are children in the picture, focus on them. Provide whatever emotional support you can for the difficult job of raising a child. As much as we like to think we know better, we don’t always.
Is your love for your child bigger or smaller than your commitment to an opinion, a belief or value system? You don’t see how the object of his affection can possibly provide that.
Is your child’s choice so disappointing or contrary to how you brought them up that you can’t find a way to make peace with it? Your hope is that your disapproval will bring your child to his senses.
You won’t get to see him develop into his adult self.
You believe that your anger, disappointment and obvious dislike will change your kid’s mind. Forcing an adult child to make the choice between the parents who raised him and the person he loves always ends badly.
Cutting off the child will only cut you off from the wheel of life.