My girlfriend asked me if she looked fat in what she was wearing. What’s a good way to approach the situation so that she doesn’t get offended? I guess I’m a pretty outgoing person, but stuff like that is kind of like… It’s not exactly a turn-off but it’s like, “Oh shit, who am I dealing with? I wouldn’t say I’m quiet, but I’m not yelling and screaming. Are you suggesting that boys are better surfers than girls? You’ve also got all these foreign girls coming in for vacation. Are you going to like…is this like one of those Candid Camera-type things? I’m dating a bunch of different guys right now, though none of them are very serious. Do I need to be honest with everyone I’m dating that I am a serial-dater? What’s the best way to hit on a surfer on the beach? I’m saying, in my experience, having girlfriends that surfed made it… Does surfing get you laid more than the average dude? Don’t worry, we’re all the way in Hawaii — no one will ever find you. Recently, one guy hinted that he knew I was playing the field. At that point, yeah, you’re kind of messing around. If someone calls you out on it, though, you should tell them. I enjoy it, but think she could turn down the volume a little bit. My girlfriend asked me if she looked fat in what she was wearing. Your dad tells you that when Mom asks you, “Hey, how do I look? That little white lie will sometimes save you the drama, the headaches: words can do a lot of damage. Recently, one guy hinted that he knew I was playing the field. In women's eyes, jealousy can be a good thing — a reassurance — but but at the end of the day, you don’t want a stage-five clinger. I’d probably take you tandem — two people, one board — and help you all the way through it. When I was little, I was sure that my uncle’s Sex Wax was something dirty. Let them go in for a kiss, and then make it the worst one of their life.She actually has gained some weight recently, and so I used the opportunity to gently tell her. Not only is she still angry, but I seem to have seriously affected her confidence, to the point where she doesn’t seem to be enjoying sex lately. But you can also suggest little things to help her look and feel better. You look a little intimidating, standing there shirtless with that large piece of wood. It depends on other areas too, if you know what I mean, and what you’re looking for. When you feel comfortable enough, then you could probably take a lesson. Don’t move your tongue, just lay it in their mouth. Start by having an opener, like, “Hey, can you tell me where to go? ” If you’re a local, ask if they have any extra wax you can use.I’ve been dating a guy for a few months, and we're really happy. I froze, because it was so unexpected, and then said, “Thank you.” After I thought about it, though, I realized I do love him. I’d say "love" is a little bit overrated: it’s used so often that “Hello” practically has more substance behind it. Does being a surfer in Hawaii get you laid more than the average dude? I do meet a lot of people, but I don’t sleep with a lot of people.So if you want to mend this situation, sit down and talk. I’m dating a bunch of different guys right now, though none of them are very serious. Do I need to be honest with everyone I’m dating that I am a serial-dater? Just tell him you’re dating a bunch of guys casually: it doesn’t mean you’re sleeping with all of them. I thought that was implied when I said “dating.” Oh.
If you take away the titles, the labels, having that trust, that friendship between you, it doesn’t matter whether you say it or not. If I see someone I like, I don’t just jump in bed with them.
I prefer not to say it at all, because then the one time I say it, it actually means a lot. If you get to know somebody, it's more enjoyable.