If someone is really interested in you before you tell them you have herpes, they probably will be afterward as well.
It just helps to tell them early so they don't feel exposed and betrayed.
With few exceptions, people don't date solely because they want to have sex.
They date because they like each other and find each other interesting and attractive.
If you wait to tell your partner that you have herpes until after you've had sex, the revelation may feel like a betrayal.You will not only have denied them the opportunity to make an informed decision about risk, but you'll have implied that your herpes diagnosis is more important than the other things they find attractive about you.Fortunately, it turns out that most of the time dating with herpes isn't nearly as scary as worrying about it.Here's why: After herpes diagnosis, it may be difficult to think about anything other than the fact that you have a disease, but that's all it is -- a disease. One of the toughest things to remember when dating with herpes is that mostly it's just -- an activity fraught with the potential for drama, pain, and heartbreak for pretty much everyone.
More » One of hardest things about dating with herpes is deciding when to disclose your diagnosis to your partner.
Although I generally try not to speak in absolutes, it is always a better idea to do so before you have sex.