They anxiously await it, see it when it isn’t there, and overreact to it whether it’s there or not.
Impulsive aggression Impulsive aggression is what happens when the other shoe drops, when the eggshells break, and the emotional roller coaster takes a 180-degree turn.
It can be triggered by immediate threats of rejection or abandonment paired with frustration.
In addition to the kind of intelligence you can measure on an IQ test, there’s emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is about monitoring emotions—both your own and those of the people around you—and then using this knowledge to guide your thinking and actions.
Many people think —it’s just that their own emotions are so intense they can be oblivious to the emotions of those around them.
They’re like a drowning person who grabs on to a would-be rescuer and pulls them both down.
The aggression can be turned inward (self-injury, suicide) or turned outward (raging, verbal abuse, domestic violence).
Some features of borderline personality disorder strike at the heart of what makes us able to have good interpersonal relationships.Some of these features are: Low emotional intelligence There’s more than one way to be smart.It’s going to be tough, but try to hold fast to the notion that your family member and the border-lion are not one and the same.Rejection sensitivity In addition to fearing abandonment, people with BPD are overly sensitive to rejection.
It is not exclusive to BPD, but a component of several impulse control disorders such as intermittent explosive disorder.Whether the border-lion is turned inward or outward, it is one of the top barriers keeping BPs and those who love them from developing the close, trusting relationship each partner yearns for.