Dating and mind games

If you want to play mind games, by all means play on.

But don’t complain when the guys you attract using mind games are doing exactly the same thing you’re doing.

What’s so wrong with being an open, honest, vulnerable, pro-active real woman with her own mind, a body and soul? If all you attract is frustration, disappointment and hurt, change the way you approach dating and the way you relate to the opposite sex. 5) If you really are into him but the relationship is not as “hot” as you want it to be, be proactive and do something about it.

Every time we set up unrealistic, counter-productive and sometimes even ridiculous “rules” that assume that all men and all women react the same way to the same situation rather than that relationships are an interplay between two unique individuals, we set ourselves up for frustration, hurt and disillusion. Stop treating dating like a game or a necessary evil you have to endure (to get to heaven) and instead see it as a journey of self-discovery. 6) If something is bothering you about the relationship, talk to him about it.

But from my practice, here are four of the most frequent games I see men playing:1) The “play to lay” game.

But a bit ironic, given that MEN themselves are masters of game playing in relationships.

In fact, the tough love coaching I give my clients is aimed at protecting women from falling victim to such games. I’m sure female readers could cite hundreds of examples.


9) If you love him and want a second chance, give love a chance. Surely openness, honesty, integrity, truthfulness, authenticity, sensitivity, fairness, thoughtfulness and self-respect can’t just be a “cultural thing”. Unless of course, you have nothing much to offer in terms of a real fulfilling relationship, then may be it makes sense to manipulate others into thinking you’re who you’re not!10) If you don’t feel he is the one for you or the relationship is toxic, end it. But that’s just my thinking (and may be it’s a “cultural thing”).


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>