From my observations, the following dating challenges seem to be common to most smart people.
In fact, the smarter you are, the more clueless you will be, and the more problems you're going to have in your dating life.
Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes -- only now with fewer single people around who happen to live in the same building and share meals with them every day.
So if they had challenges then, it gets about 1,000 times worse once they're tossed from the warm womb of their alma mater.
Of course, as noted above, things only get worse once you graduate.
And if you're frustrated with your love life, you just might try to compensate by working harder and achieving even more to fill that void.
Dating is at best another extracurricular, number six or number seven down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton.
The writing of the books was precipitated by the endemic dating woes on the Harvard campus as I observed them as an advisor and, earlier, indulged in them as a student.
Once upon a day I used to be pretty smart, and believe me, I had a lock on clueless. For simple things, it takes someone smart to really screw it up. Take piano, violin, tennis, swimming and Tibetan throat-singing lessons. Be "well-rounded."Well, you're a talented little bugger. At the same time, there's an opportunity cost associated with achievement.
So whether you went (or should have gone) to the likes of Harvard, Yale, Princeton, MIT, Stanford, Columbia, Cornell, Swarthmore, Amherst, Dartmouth, Brown, Oxford, Cambridge, Berkeley, Penn, Caltech, Duke, read on: Smart kids usually come from smart families. Time spent studying, doing homework, and practicing the violin is time not spent doing other things -- like chasing boys or girls, which turns out is fairly instrumental in making you a well-rounded human.
And smart families are usually achievement-oriented. The upshot of all that achievement is that you get into a top college -- congratulations!
-- and then continue doing even more of what you were doing before.Left untreated, this condition can go on for decades.