But an opening may appear -- when her impassive visage shows a flicker of interest. SHE SAYS For foreign women in Germany, flirting with the natives can be problematic.And often as a foreigner, you have the advantage of being different and intriguing.Observe carefully and don't over do it -- the poor thing will likely be a bit on the defensive from the start if you come on too strong.And it's true, German women will swoon over their vacation dalliances: "Those southern men," they'll giggle and gush. Well intentioned smiles are often rebuffed by a stare implicitly accusing you of mortally wounding her beloved pet terrier.But then again -- as with most flirts -- it's hit and miss.Interest is indicated by way of a studied, concentrated look on the part of the man -- a gaze which may, but often doesn't, include a smile.Rather than a stare, though, the look should be brief and fleeting -- and the man's job is done.
Not that you'll be slapped right away, but your would-be quarry will no-doubt be thinking to herself, "Meinemutterhatmichschonimmervorsolchentypengewarnt." German chicks are simply wary of aggressive flirting. On their turf, the type of aggressive flirting practiced by the semi-desperate the world over will shake German women. Instinct kicks in and directness -- that silver bullet which vanquishes all well-intentioned flirts -- takes over.
If you've met German women outside of Germany, you may be tempted to dispute the above characterization of the German flirt. Theyll look at you with furrowed brow, and some apprehension. They'll turn away or let your sentences drop -- and with them your self-esteem -- into a heavy silence.
The word "flirt" has two meanings: one for Germans and one for the rest of the world.
Most of the 3 billion men on the globe today figure their best shot is to make their make obvious.
And the calculus is simple: If she doesn't know you're interested, your chances are nada -- if she can't ignore your come-ons, at least she's got to make a decision.
German women, though, have become conditioned to a much more subtle style of coquetry.