That’s because when we met, he was gorgeous and charming and his status wouldn’t have put a dent in how attracted to him I was. One talked to his doctor about how it might impact an existing condition he had.
Why on Earth would I knowingly choose to put myself in danger like that? But to me, it feels like you’re asking me to justify my value.The facts on herpes are actually quite clear when you do research online: herpes transmission is not that simple, particularly when both parties make an effort to use condoms, antivirals, dental dams, and so forth.I know couples who have gone years without transmitting by being honest with each other about when they are having outbreaks.The person most likely to give you herpes is the person who doesn’t know they have it in the first place.
Here’s another pet peeve of my email inbox: when a man (because it’s almost always a man) asks me if he should continue seeing this woman he’s been dating who just told him she has herpes.Sometimes the question is data-based, about what transmission statistics are real. When you ask me questions about if you should date someone with herpes, I know you’re looking for an expert opinion.