Appreciate what life still has to offer while you can.
The great wonder of middle age is that we know our time is now limited.
It is possible to maintain a happy sex-life for decades with the same person.
But our culture presents only one type as being valid: youthful, vigorous, usually penetrative.It’s those differences that make life more interesting, as our lover opens up a whole new way of seeing or understanding the world.Enjoy what others have to offer rather than trying to change them to fit your own template of how life and love should be. Expecting someone to be everything you need and everything you are not is a recipe for disaster.Ridiculing or humiliating each other is not a good idea, or a good omen.
But if you can both talk honestly about what irritates or upsets you and why, you are more likely to understand each other better.If you have managed to surf the ups and downs of bringing up children, work and making ends meet all within the same relationship, the rewards can be great.