Around the beginning of February, youth pastors are scrambling and asking each other, "What should I put in my sex and relationships talk? "A lot of material focuses on playing it safe and goes way too shallow.Did you know that 90% of 8-16 years old have viewed pornography online? Not only have they heard about everything you're afraid to say... You can grab that stat and more like it from So without further ado, here's our Pro Tips on the matter: God loves them because God is love. No matter what we do or who we are - God's love isn't based on what we do or who we are. You're gonna talk about a lot of stuff that provides Satan with an opportunity to accuse." Chances are - the person your dating is someone else's future spouse." "How do I make sure I don't hurt my boyfriend or girlfriend?" "How do I act in such a way that I'd be able to hold my head up high if I was invited to my girlfriend's future wedding (if she married someone else)?You want to lay this on thick and protect them from feeling condemnation.We're not here to talk about why people shouldn't have sex.
I met a drunk girl on the streets of my hometown one day while out with a friend. She said, "I've had sex with a lot of people - but I've never made love with anyone." She had decided... There is no such thing as "friends with benefits."The thing is... You'd never compare it to someone who broke their arm once. People who are raped or molested experience physical pain, psychological pain, emotional pain, and spiritual pain. One of my youth told me a story about a girl who (Before I came to this church) asked, "Where in the Bible does it say that people can't have sex until marriage?
and culture had taught her that sex can be purely physical. our culture agrees with this (unless it's inconvenient for them). " And apparently (so the story goes) no one could answer her.
Writers, editors, photographers, models - they're all hell bent on making sure our students lust after their final product. Lives are being destroyed and taking part in such death is absolutely not a part of the Christian life.
You don't want to answer this question so much as you want to get them to start asking a different question: "How do I glorify God with my relationship?
Talk about the dangers of lust (checking each other out). Girl magazines have pages called "eye candy" with half naked guys.
You can't walk through a grocery store check out line or downs the aisles of a convenience store without some adult trying to convince you to lust. Talk about the dangers of pornography - not only to those who use it but also to those who work in the industry.