Among Japanese teenagers the most basic way of starting to date someone is by giving them a “kokuhaku” or love confession.
This sounds a bit creepy but it’s not so much telling someone you love them but rather the Japanese way of letting them know you like them and asking them out.
Unlike Japan, California is a true melting pot of cultures but since I had so little dating experience back home, I was nervous about getting into the dating scene in America.
Mostly because I had no idea how the American dating culture worked.
One thing that is very different in Japan is that it is not uncommon for a woman to ask a man out.
I have to confess that I had a crush on a boy in junior high and my friends forced me to do the kokuhaku ritual.
Unfortunately it doesn’t always work out as the boy wasn’t interested in me.
If you confess and she/he says yes, you two could be considered a couple.
Growing up in Japan my parents were really strict and so I didn’t get an opportunity to start going on dates until after I graduated from high school.I did have a Japanese boyfriend but I ended things with him to go to school in California.