By Judith Silverstein, Michael Lasky The Internet is a strange place, and what seems abnormal for in-person experiences is completely common on the Internet.
Notice that the word is common, not polite or considerate.
You need to know how to dish out rejection in an appropriate way.
As with real life, you must do it quickly — and with a modicum of kindness, if possible.
The Internet-appropriate action to take is to simply say“I need to stop now. If it’s an argument telling you why you are a match, simply sign off. Regarding the third action, no stranger is worth any emotional investment on your part, especially negative ones. If someone has really incensed you, avoid further trouble even though you’re anonymous. They are unlikely to go postal on you, but some people are sufficiently sick to do some serious libel and slander.
I’ve enjoyed chatting with you, but I don’t think we’re a match. Some people flame others by sending e-mails, warning people of a person’s supposed bad character. He is [insert issue here].”) Although you could sue them for defamation, who needs the grief?
Here are the Internet-appropriate ways to say no: Note that Internet dating sites vary in the sophistication of their features.
On some sites, the person knowsthat you received his or her e-mail and read it.
Say that you’re in the midst of a phone call with a prospect (after some e-mail exchanges), and you realize that he or she just isn’t a match.The appropriate actions to take include Occasionally, you’ll run into people who just won’t stop contacting you even after you’ve rejected them.