However, with the direction that social dynamics are heading in the West, this is a dream that is slipping away from the hands of most men. What’s it like to date a woman who will go out of her way to please you?And why is it so satisfying to have this kind of woman for most men?I began having fantasies about him like I'd never had about anyone. I'd heard about BDSM—bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism—but didn't know much about it. Wasn't it weird that I, a proud feminist, could enjoy something so degrading? Wink, wink."At first, we casually texted, catching up on each other's lives.C., both recently out of serious relationships, both working long hours at jobs we loved.He had a big position with a top financial firm; I headed up public relations for a health-care nonprofit.His style is all about inspiring girls and drawing them into one’s world.When I first met Doug on in 2005, we were 26 and living in Washington, D.
I became uncharacteristically needy, and it pushed him away. Within a few clicks on another popular site, I found Doug's profile.Months went by after we'd broken up, but I couldn't get Doug out of my head. I was initially shocked, and yet it made perfect sense. I messaged him: "I didn't know you had this side of you.