No-one who gets married imagines that it will end in divorce.
Whatever the reasons behind it, there will be bruised hearts and dented confidence, especially when it comes to dating again.
It is important to understand what happened and to forgive yourself for any mistakes you think you made in the marriage.
Feeling good about yourself again may take time, and often it can help to talk to a trained professional so that you don’t make the same mistakes again in the future. Getting to know you – some relationships are so intense that people can lose sight of themselves completely.
Everyone goes through them in their own time and perhaps in a different order.
Afterwards it can feel like they have been left with only half a life.
At e Harmony we understand how difficult it can be to re-enter the dating scene, especially if you have not dated for a very long time.
Here are some guidelines we have put together especially for divorcees. Go through the stages – according to psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, there are five stages people go through when they suffer a loss, whether it is a death or a divorce.
They are likely to miss their other parent and may not fully understand the reasons why you split.
Introduce the idea of you dating again before you actually do anything and allow them the freedom to share their feelings with you. The feel good factor – Divorce affects people’s confidence not just in themselves but in relationships, love and the sanctity of marriage.