(Patti is also a Jewish girl raised in Short Hills, New Jersey, and I'm a Jewish girl who went to camp with a lot of girls from Short Hills, New Jersey.) And after almost every break up, bad date, etc. Related: Game, Set, and Cyber-Match My most recent breakup was one of my harder ones.
I, "showing my dick," talk a lot about my job early on—how busy I am! How could I blame them for backing out when I hadn't entered into it honestly myself?
The most important thing I learn is that no matter how painful the past may be, it's essential that we change the story of it in our head—that we forgive, apologize, and love.
And instead of crawling back to him, I decided to crawl towards Patti and really ask: WWPD. I asked her about getting back out after feeling the shell shock of a breakup.
I asked her about dating in New York ("The odds are against you," she warned me. (I would date Tom Cruise if he were Jewish, but I see her point.) "You're 27, you don't know shit about dating. She directs me to a website, Attracting ASoulmate.com, where for , you get over three hours of Patti-approved virtual life coaching to help you find love. Related: Why Mini Heartbreaks Hurt So Good I listened to powerful 20-minute lectures from these experts about how to fix the problems within yourself that are causing you to make bad decisions as well as tips on how you can more actively make good ones.
And even though I'd never wear a Hervé Léger bandage dress on a first date (granny chic is more my style), I've always felt like Patti Stanger "gets" me.
Patti is a no-nonsense, ambitious straight-shooter—all characteristics I think people would use to describe me.