You do have to have lived long enough to look at this timeline and understand.” “Be yourself, no games. ’ And he just laughed and said ‘No.’ I said ‘Good.’ (And it has been open season ever since! I'm not saying be gross about it, but it happens sometimes.I farted on the second date with my current partner of 15 years. ) The guy I dated right before him, let me know under no uncertain terms that farting was off limits. So yeah, be real right up front, that way you will eliminate those who can't handle your unique realness, and reveal it to those who will love and appreciate it.” “Make sure other people like them.Dating is tough at any age, just always be true to yourself.”“Enjoy the process and not overthink what the outcome will be.After a few snippy phone calls, exaggerated eye rolling (that luckily, she couldn’t see), she finally threw in the towel and lets me vent instead of getting involved. Let’s just say there have been plenty of dates, not too many relationships, and far too many unsolicited dick picks. Through it all though, I never once considered settling because I didn’t want to be alone.Even though my mom was single until the, ahem, ripe ol’ age of 24, when it comes to our experiences in dating, we have some pretty vast differences. When my mom was on the market, there were no dating apps, text messages, cyberstalking sessions — nothing digital. He was worth the wait and the bad dates, and I’m so glad I never threw the towel in or I would have missed something truly wonderful.” “If they don’t care the same way you do, let them go.You can literally draw a line and mark when things happened in your relationship, work, family and anything that comes to you.Examples can be if your relationship, work and health are suffering, you can actually see why you're having a hard time and think: ‘No wonder we are struggling, anyone would with these particular stresses of life, would be too.’ Then I could go back to whatever was upsetting me and decide what to do.Because if other people like them, they're a good person. There are virtually no rules, other than don’t do anything illegal and don’t hurt other people.
While I still talk to my mom about my dating life (or at least, some of it), there are some things she knows not to do. And really, the kind of advice that applied decades ago isn’t as out-of-touch as you’d think.Like, give me advice about what to do in any particular situation. Just take it from these 50-something folks who gave me their very best dating wisdom: “I never thought I would meet someone like my husband of 30 years, but I sure had to date a lot of people before meeting him.