When two Chinese go on a first date, especially dates organized by their mothers or a coven of plotting ayis, it can be a fairly serious affair, even with children/families/marriage discussed in some cases. However, at least in America, we will go on dates with people we hardly even know/like for something interesting to do, a chance at an actual future together, and—this is important—the potential for a mutually-agreed upon sexual relationship.
I’m not saying one is more preferable or better than the other, but when you are going on a date with a Chinese or foreign partner, you have to keep in mind how they might be viewing the encounter.
If you’re single, new to China and plan on being here for a while, the issue of dating a Chinese partner will inevitably arise.Besides dealing with the whole “Yellow Fever” stereotype, there are certainly some things you should know before you start dating in China, so you and your Chinese partner don’t have too many surprises along the way.Source: Keep in mind that these are all generalities, only based on my personal experiences.As such, perhaps not everything I say in the following paragraphs will adhere to every person, Chinese or foreign.
Similarly, while I suspect that many of these ideas still apply to some extent if you are a foreign girl looking to date a Chinese guy, or with gay/lesbian dating in China, I unfortunately cannot offer any first-hand accounts of these types of relationships.
I welcome the input of our readers in the comments section below! You always hear about foreign guys coming to hook up with innocent Chinese girls and then leaving them the next day.