We’re going to assume either you have no friends to snap a quick portrait of your or that someone has chopped off all of your friends’ fingers. Then before you know it you’re shouting at us, “Just stop breathing! ” How about starting with no demands or conditions up front? Maybe your “real” is someone else’s “witty.” We can’t possibly tell. As for “No drama,” in what universe would love ever come into being without drama? You might as well have written, “Sorry, incapable of love.” Next! You’re handsome enough that the chicks should just dig you without knowing a thing about you other than the fact that you have piercing blue eyes.
No, the little texts under the Tinder profiles are no great works of bedside literature, but they are at least as fascinating a peek into the male psyche as that Knausgaard book everyone keeps raving about, though it’s the only book on my nightstand that’s guaranteed to lull me to sleep when even sheep-counting fails. Seriously, just swipe left on all of us, and save yourself the pain and misery.) So. I know you are distractible, but Grasshoppers, I have so much to teach you beyond which you’re all perfectly capable of doing yourself. What you write has a profound effect upon whether we will take a very real risk of swiping right. 8) Zen and the art of motorcycle, tiger, and cigar selfies: If your motorcycle, tiger or cigar is really a part of who you are—meaning you are a Chinese food deliveryman, a Hell’s Angel, a zookeeper, or Groucho Marx—then having a portrait of yourself on your ride or with a man-eating mammal or smoking a giant penis-shaped object makes sense.
Plus, as one friend recently told me, swiping through Tinder profiles is like dating without the actual mess of having to date. What have I learned from studying the profiles of the single men of my generation? I’m talking about basic mistakes 97.5 percent of you are all making, give or take .5 of a percentage point. Is it something about the way the light streaming through the back window halos your hair just so? Put more bluntly: We are women, and you are all potential stalkers and rapists. 6) Bragging: When you write, “I am the CEO of a multinational company; I really never have to work another day in my life, but I work hard, and I play hard, and I like it that way!
This site is dedicated to sharing my experience and knowledge of online dating advice for women, especially middle aged women, over 40 years old.
It discusses dating psychology that I found interesting from a number of books I have read.
It is merely unprofessional dating advice for women from a person interested in psychology who is living through a middle aged divorce; someone who has suffered the joys and sorrows of online middle aged dating.
I want to share my experiences in the hope of helping others.
On the other hand, because of this same single parenthood—and the concomitant lack of contact with other grown-ups it so generously affords—I’ve become a virtual scholar of the Tinder profile, if only out of sheer curiosity during the twilight hour between dishes and bed. Yes, over here, look at me, I’m talking to you, single men between the ages of 39 and 59! 9) Sandals with shorts: It was a hot day in Dharamsala, we get it, but that look just does not scream sexy to us. If all those women love you so much, then what the hell are you doing on Tinder?
I also use my own personal dating stories and thoughts.
I have been trained as a scientist and have tried to use my training in that field in my writing along with my interests and experiences.
In particular this middle age dating advice site focuses on: I am not a licensed therapist, a dating coach or a life coach.
I just have read a lot of psychology books, divorce books and dating books and have a keen interest in those topics.