Pausing to remember what brought you together and looking at the life you've built is extremely important.
Appreciation can be an amazing aphrodisiac." Vermeire suggests re-creating the list of qualities you were looking for in a significant other to remind yourself how long it took to find the right person, and asking friends to help you recall what you said (or -romanticize it.
"The sensation that brings back excitement is a quieter, subtle connection that's more even, steady, and fulfilling.
In fact, as many of you know, the more kids you have, the more you need to MAKE time to be alone with your spouse. In fact, it's crucial that our kids see us making time for our spouses and that they know how important our relationship is to us. The most important thing is to have fun with each other and let each other know how much you enjoy spending time with each other.
My husband and I can have fun folding the laundry or cuddling on the couch, especially when the kids are in bed! Be sure to follow us on our NEW Facebook page or Pinterest and sign up for emails to keep up with all the latest crafts, activities, and kid-friendly recipes!
In fact, we've scared away all of our "free" (a.k.a. He was still talking about how much fun he had days later. ) Trust me, when it comes to being short on time and money, I totally get it.
The early excitement of falling in love is a wonderful thing, but what you have now is even better.
"It's important to remember that those sensations are actually related to an underlying fear of rejection, so there's an element of risk that creates excitement," says life coach and relationship specialist Ellen Hartson.
If you read my goals for 2013, you know that one of my goals for this year was to have one intentional "date" each month with my husband.
The reality is that with 4 young boys, one being a baby who refuses to take a bottle, we don't get out much alone- or ever! We made-out like teenagers and my husband LOVED it.
But taking the time to relive the earliest days of your courtship can help revive those falling-in-love feelings.
"We fall in love with someone for a reason," says relationship therapist Jill Vermeire "Daydream and get lost in the memory of those first dates in order to remind yourself that your partner is still that person.