But suddenly the rough-housing older boys in the pool have pushed her under, she’s gulping in water, and with her fear threatening to weigh her down she almost drowns.
Miraculously she makes her way to the steps, climbs out, and wraps herself in a towel.
Did you ever try to teach your children how to swim?
Little Sara feels safe, secure, and enjoys the pool sitting on the steps or hanging onto the side.
To get back in the deep and survive, she’ll need to develop some stronger swimming skills.
This is a good image of two dynamics that often happen after divorce: some don’t have enough sense and want to jump right back in, and others want to get out of the pool altogether—too afraid to ever go in again.
After a few tears she doesn’t want to be left out and wants to go back into the pool—and that’s when you step in.
better, you see that it’s probably a good idea that she stay in the shallow end and get rid of the floaties.
It is far too terrifying to be alone in that water when she does not know how to handle it.Now fast forward a year or so and Sara has learned to hold her breath and kick her feet; she’s put on her floaties and is splashing merrily in the deep end.