Dear "Serial Dater": Look, dating is simply a numbers game. Begin doing things you once loved to do that you haven't had time to get into. Journal your thoughts on a daily basis too- it helps get them out of your head and on paper to keep focused on your goals for that day, week, or month. Once you find a social groups that incorporate your interests, you will find that finding someone that peaks your interest much easier. I do have a few questions to ask you- what do you talk about? The reason I ask this, is the question you presented completely revolves around you and how great you are.
You're not doing anything wrong, unless of course your standards are too high. No doubt you are a great guy, but people don't necessarily want to hear you gloat about yourself for 6 minutes- it's a HUGE turn off.
This might sound a bit corny, however, you have immediately engaged this person by 1) complimenting them, 2) increasing their confidence, 3) sparked an interesting topic of conversation.
Put yourself in the other persons shoes and think of how you would feel if you were on the receiving end of your conversation. Remember, as people, we make a physical judgment within 3 seconds of meeting someone.
Many people fall into this "cycle" of dating people to only find that they're looking for all the wrong qualities, and overlooking someone because they may not fit the "picture perfect" match. The first thing you should do when you sit down with one of your daters, is compliment a certain physical trait about them, even if they are not your type; Look for something they obviously worked on.
After this, you will want to write daily about what you are looking for. Let's start off with the question of what you talk about and if the conversation is mostly revolving around you.
Start getting back into those things you once enjoyed, and explore the local social aspects of these things. These are going to be the 3 character values you cannot live without, and the 3 things you just cannot, no matter what, stand to tolerate in a romantic relationship. Let me break this down for you question by question, in hopes that we can find out exactly what is occurring here.
Lastly, what is your tonality when you are talking to someone?So, if you are not 'dressed to impress' or might still be 'living in the 90's' with your elastic waistband khaki's and Hawaiian button down, you might give off a bad first impression.If you are oblivious to the current fashion trends, I recommendasking for help. stores have fashion experts that can help you reinvent your look.Most people do not know what they sound like when they talk.
Depending on your area, there may be social outlets where you can meet other people that share similar interests. You want to start off by setting a list of 10 things you're looking for in someone and a list of 10 non-negotiable's.
For example, if their hair looks great, or their makeup is well done, you might say something like "Wow, you look great tonight, your hair looks so healthy".