But it goes deeper than that, because the simple truth is that most of the thoughts that will spontaneously occur to you in the field will also occur to other people.
Anything openers based on the situation are likely to be kind of thing she hears all the time.
Aspiring pick-up artists spend a lot of time thinking about openers.
Ask any PUA instructor, and he’ll tell you that his students invariably want pick-up lines.
Some of this makes sense: the opener is easy to teach (by the end of this article, you’ll know more than one).
On the other hand, the opener is far less important than most students think it is.
They’re sure it will sound false, or they’re worried about being called out for it.
But herein lies one of the great counter-intuitive truths of pickup: a good, rehearsed canned opener sounds more original than most of what you can come up spontaneously. If you were writing an essay, do you think you’d do better if you spend time working on it and polishing it, or if you just said whatever you came up with in the moment?
Many new students to PUA hate the idea of using a canned opener.This is one of the most common types of opener, and it’s best exemplified by Style’s “jealous girlfriend” opener.Therefore, if you want to be original, it’s often best to use a canned opener.Additionally, having a canned opener you trust is a great way to get around approach anxiety, since it means you never have the excuse of not knowing what to say.
Your success or failure in the set is going to depend far more on your mastery of attraction, qualification, kino escalation, and rapport building than it will on your ability to open properly.That being said, if you can’t open, you can’t work on that kind of stuff.