now it's been close to 7 months since she passed and my dad keeps asking if i will meet this woman and hang out with her. it makes my skin crawl even to think that she has been to our house and to our family cabin up north with my dad.
she's started posting photos and things on his facebook page and she recently gave my dad a gift to pass on to my 1-year-old daughter (who she's never met). the last time my dad called me to ask if i would meet her was literally on the 6-month anniversary of my mom's death... i'm worried he will want to include her in thanksgiving festivities, which are already going to be so sad because my mom won't be there. or is it legitimate that i don't want her to be a part of my life?
And, if it helps you to grieve the loss of your mother to not meet this woman right now, I think you are entitled to that and should not have to meet her yet. But again, in my opinion I believe in order for you to grieve as you need to, then you do not have to meet this woman right now. And so none of us can say your father is doing it the right or wrong way - he has to do it his own way.
Especially, who is to know if this relationship will even go anywhere yet? As a grieving widow, I've seen how so many of us handle things differently. I just hope he is doing it in a way that is fair to himself and the woman he is seeing...
that was pretty tough for me to deal with, but i tried not be upset about it.
i figured it was a way to distract himself from the pain.