Only when the woman’s father has given the man his blessing to enter into a courtship relationship with his daughter is the man free to focus on winning her affections.The husband, who is the head of the family, has unique responsibilities.(See Proverbs 1:7–9.) The couple should get involved in family functions by going to each other’s homes and doing things with parents and siblings.The concepts presented here are helpful guidelines to consider, but the list is not exhaustive.
Similarly, the man who initiates the courtship has unique responsibilities.The family plays a critical role in helping a man or woman identify characteristics and traits of a potential partner that are important to know before deciding to get married.In most cases, he will consult his parents, but in some situations, such as in the absence of parents due to death, other Godly mentors such as a pastor may fill this role of counselor.As God’s direction to pursue courtship is confirmed through the man’s authorities, through insights from God’s Word, and through prayer, he should contact the woman’s father to request permission to initiate the courtship.
Every individual, family, and situation is unique, and therefore, the process of each courtship is unique.
What worked well for one couple might not be the best choice for another couple.