” Or, use humor when he asks you to dinner and say,“Oh you want to take me on a date? ” Your confidence and clarity will be cute and his reaction will tell you a lot. Mean your kisses: Be careful with the connections you make with your body.
Don’t be too serious too fast: I think this is often why guys keep things ambiguous, they’re afraid you’re going to go buy some bridal magazines on the way home and start naming your kids. Keep it classy and avoid just “hooking up” with a man.
One Friday night, after a three hour dinner date at a nice local restaurant, I discovered that the man who’d taken me out, paid for dinner, walked me to my car and said, “we’ll do it again very soon,” actually meant to text someone else, but texted me on accident. Didn’t I just have three and a half hours of great, intimate conversation? ” Me: “Sure.” And then he called and explained that he meant to text the girl he was dating.With a great amount of audacity he said, “Sorry, I look forward to hanging out again soon!” I repeated that last part to myself: The words fell on my ears with all kinds of crashing disappointment. Was I over-thinking a perfectly good male-female friendship and trying to fit it into a category of my desire rather than its intent?
I liked him, and despite this moment on the phone, I knew he was a good guy. While girls and guys can be epidemically guilty of fantasy dating, it was not the case that night. However, living without intention does not make you innocent of hurting others.Receiving his texts to another woman moments after our date had ended made me feel like a girl dressed up for prom, only to look out the window to see her date pin a corsage on the girl next-door. It was fair for me to assume that it was a date because, that is what it was. After years of dating, I’ve learned that as hard as it is, clarity in communication seems to be the best way to take care of yourself in a world full of vague dates.