In the end, forgiveness becomes far more difficult, and communication and restoration almost impossible.
If we only opened up and explained to another person how they made us feel, there is a chance that they would understand and alter their behaviour.
Instead, we have bought into the lie that putting up a wall will somehow protect us, expecting that people will telepathically understand why we are upset, get the hint and change their actions.
The only solution is this – let’s have the hard conversations. Let’s give God an opportunity to breakthrough and resolve difficult situations with the people around us.
Walls were so ingrained in me that I thought that they were just another part of my personality.
God began to show me that I built walls because I did not know how to communicate with people.
You see, I did not want to have hard conversations or be truthful about how I felt – I thought that this kind of vulnerability was just a sign of weakness and it was important for me to appear strong and ‘not bothered’ when people hurt me.
The truth is that walls are a fleshy way of protecting ourselves.
Until very recently, I lived a life of building walls.
I’m talking about the walls that we put up when we don’t know how to deal with a person or a situation.