For many single women, dating can be difficult and disappointing. Phil offers advice to get through the dating maze and help find your Mr. He returned to the The Early Show to talk with co-anchor Rene Syler about how to do just that. Phil says that dating is "simply one of the most inefficient, non-productive, haphazard, hit-or-miss ways to try to achieve one of the most important objectives of your entire life."How so? When you decide 'I want to find a life partner, I want to get out there and make it happen,' nobody has a plan," he says. Phil says: "I want you to really spend some time consciously making eye contact with him. "I would rather four of them say they didn't like her, and one guy say I really liked her. His new book, "Love Smart: Find the One You Want — Fix The One You Got," Dr. Look right at him."As Wendy establishes eye contact, the date says, "We should look at the menu. " "I can't honestly say I was paying enough attention," Wendy says."Say I was paying more attention to you than the menu," prods Dr. The worst thing in the world you can do is if you go to a party and you meet four or five guys, and the next day not one of them can remember you.Phil says you must have a plan where you create what you want. There's an art to it and everybody has their own style," he says. Find out what you want to know and decide what it is you want him to know and make sure you deliver that information on that first date.
So we freshened her up a little bit and then put her out there."I said 'Let's make some eye contact, ask some meaningful questions.' You don't care what his sign is.
"She described herself as the worst wall flower ever, with drab clothes, she would look at the ground, never got a second date — ever.