Abusive women and men, especially personality disordered women and men (Sociopaths, Narcissists, Borderlines, Histrionics, High-Conflict People – henceforth known as Crazy) do not do closure. It is also difficult to let go of Crazy because of the high degree of ambiguity this kind of relationship creates. How could she move on so quickly when you’re still grinding through the loss and trying to make sense of everything? This type of woman repeats the same behaviors over and over again in her relationships.
She has a script in her head that she force fits new partners into whether they like it or not.
Then you have two selfish, destructive, immature jerks to contend with while trying to nurture and protect your kids.
Better to let two disordered people cannibalize each other instead of inflicting their abuse on the rest of the population.
If this is true of your situation, remember, she’s a crazy a-hole and he’s a crazy a-hole.
Find another people pleasing, rescuer, Nice Guy type who is eager to prove he’s not like the “bad men” who hurt her in the past.
She’s the eternal victim and boyfriend/husband du jour is her hero until she decides he’s the villain and presto change-o — he’s a “jerk” like all the other “jerks” before him.This phenomenon is described in When Crazy seeks to replace you, she will usually: 1.