For example, I have a lot of friends who are military guys. Don’t go full-retard by making the monogamy long distance, even if you think you have a “good reason.” Jesus. Open / Poly Long Distance Relationships To discuss nonmonogamous LDRs, we have to be aware of our three relationship types: FB, MLTR, and OLTR, all of which are described in the glossary. I have a few inconsistent FBs in a few different cities across the US, so when I visit those places often it’s fun time if schedules allow.I respect the hell out of these guys and think they’re awesome beyond belief. The validity of an LDR depends almost entirely on the relationship type. FB by definition is very casual, so that means you don’t care what she’s doing. Having five or six FB LDRs will make you a very happy man. Yes, you possible, but just because something is possible doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. Now that we have that definition straight, let’s discuss… Unless you both have ridiculously low sex drives, this will never, ever, ever, ever, EVER work. So that’s rule number one: Long distance relationships that are expected to be monogamous are the single dumbest thing people do. In order to see each other, one of you is going to have to get onto a plane or train. Having a serious LDR with a person for months or years and expecting that person to never be sexual with anyone else while you’re away for that long…I mean seriously, how dumb are you? The way I define a “long distance relationship” or “LDR” is the following: When I say “easily traversed by car,” I admit we get into a grey area. I refuse to open any woman who lives longer than 50 minutes away from me she’s not expecting me to pay for her gas every time (because perhaps she has other reasons to visit my area), then that’s fine. Definition of a “Long Distance Relationship” First, as always, we need to get our definitions straight. I personally have always maintained my 50-minute rule.
They marry some cute, young, hot chick, then go away for 15 months. Is normal human behavior such an alien concept to you? It also means she’s not serious enough for you to warrant spending money just to fly out to see her (or flying her to see you). (Unless you’re constructing a relationship that is very bizarre and well beyond the scope of what I normally discuss here.) I have never had an MLTR or OLTR LDR and never will. Phone sex, chat sex, video-Skype sex and all this other crap is complete bullshit and is only for beta males who cant get laid, at least in my opinion. LDR in this article means that a car is not an option. The single dumbest thing people do in relationships is this: Getting into a long distance relationship that is expected to be monogamous. Monogamous LDRs are literally the single, most stupid thing human beings do in their relationship lives. Again though, women within car distance is not what I’m talking about today. She makes the trip when she can, and I don’t pay her a thing. Part of my 50-minute rule is that any distance beyond the 50-minute maximum is 100% problem, not mine.
Every man is going to have a different opinion on what that means. As a matter of fact, I have a woman in my life right now who does that.They’re in the military so they have to and they have no choice; that part is fine. If you’re going to do it because one of you is on a temporary trip for a week before they return, then that’s fine if you really want to do it.