Even if a gay girl is open to dating a bi girl, even if she doesn't harbor preconceived conceptions about bisexual women, my guess is that to make things easier and more streamlined, she is going to search for gay women.Even if you go on one or two unsuccessful dates during the week, you still give off a vibe at the bar that says, "Yes, I am dating," as opposed to the I-haven't-been-on-a-date-in-three-months vibe that people (annoyingly) tend to pick up on, as if through an extra sense.Nevertheless, as easy as online dating has become (it's evolved into the mainstream and is popular in New York City and across the country), it is still difficult to navigate as a bisexual woman.When signing in to for the first time, the first thing that appears is a banner that exclaims, "It's easy to get started!" You and I both know that this is not entirely true, considering how many questions you have to answer to complete your profile (physical characteristics as well as "likes" and "dislikes") and how much of a pain it is to allocate and upload attractive photos of yourself. Immediately it asks if you are a woman or a man, which is fine for me but isn't necessarily an easy question for others who don't identify with one or either gender. Why are you making me decide something that I can't answer so definitively?
The first seems less viable, because I truly like both genders, and I hate to be boxed in so tightly. After I check "bisexual," I have the option to click "I do not want to see or be seen by straight people." But wait! In my previous relationships, both short ones and long-lasting ones, I have dated straight men, so of course I want them to be able to view my profile.The second option seems daunting, because, again, if you have ever filled out an online dating profile, you know it is a tedious, aggravating procedure. My profile now states that I am bi and looking for guys and girls who like bi girls. As much as I like to avoid stereotypes, I couldn't help but wonder how many gay women would actively search out bi women on a dating site.