Yet, it has become the defining aspect of social life on many campuses — so common, so obligatory, that it leaves little room for experimentation that bends the rules.
I’ve spent the past eight years investigating hookup culture and talking with students, faculty members and college administrators about it.
I chose to dress sexier than I ever had and to stretch the boundaries of what I considered acceptable.
And back then, I didn’t know anyone else who had done it.
I thought I would find that the vast majority of students revel in it, but instead I encountered a large percentage who feel confined by it or ambivalent about it (the “whateverists,” as I call them).
Nervous to be alone in challenging hookup culture, most students go along with it, even if they privately long for alternatives.