We went out to a movie, then we had dinner, then she gave me a bunch of drama about , but she did. You take your girlfriend or your OLTR out on dates. She was an FB, but he was treating her like an MLTR.Guys often don’t realize the unspoken messages they’re sending to women. As a result, he was sending all kinds of mixed signals, which of course ended up in drama. If you treat an FB like an FB, that’s fine (as long as you’re a nice guy about it).I define these two terms here and here, but just to review: FB, or “friends with benefits” or “fuck buddy” is a woman you’re regularly (or irregularly) having sex with, but you are not attracted to her beyond very simple friendship.
The common image is that of a guy fucking some chick’s brains out, then rolling over and saying “Damn! I need to get up early tomorrow for work, so yeah, uh, you need to go now! The very next image is the poor, half-dressed woman standing out on the sidewalk in the dark of night, her clothes bunched up in her arms, a hurt expression on her face. I have FBs in my life right now that I first started seeing back in 2007.Many times an FB will come over to my place, we’ll talk, maybe have a drink, then have sex, then relax for a while, talk while watching TV, then she’ll go home. Remember that the first word in “friend with benefits” is .She’s going to immediately react with confusion, anger, and hurt feelings. All the women in my life know exactly where they stand with me at all times, with no inconsistency and no deception. The FB Behavior Set Let’s be very specific about how to treat FBs, and how .They are welcome to stay with me, or to leave me whenever they like without any complaints. Hollywood, with it’s pro-woman, anti-Alpha agenda, has done a great job at portraying a “fuck buddy” or “friend with benefits” as a negative, disrespectful thing.
If I treated FBs like the Hollywood version of the Alpha Male, such a feat would be impossible.
It’s perfectly fine to spend time with FBs, both before and after sex.