These are great books, but I talk about them enough that they’re everywhere, so I figured they’re already on your radar. ” I’m saying that we could all grow a little bit in our marriage this year, and that’s a great goal.So I’ve divided these books up into different categories, and why don’t you pick a category that you need to grow in the most, and then pick one book? Decide to read one book this year and then actually put it into practice. So choose one book in an area that you know you need, and I know you’ll see some real benefits. Cloud and Townsend open their book with a great story of two different couples. One couple is at a buffet restaurant with one of the authors, and when the husband is finished his main course, he gestures to his wife, and says, “Doris, dessert now.” He wants her to go get him dessert. The other couple takes pains to care for each other. They treat each other kindly, and marriage is a joy.And yet both marriages started out on very similar footing.In both marriages she did most of the work, and he thought he should get the perks.And I really appreciated the end of the book where they give some concrete examples of how church leaders should help when roles are going really unfulfilled–something I commented on in my post Are You a Spouse or an Enabler?She pushed herself to her emotional and physical limits because she thought her only role was to pour herself out for everybody else.And in the process she made herself miserable and her family miserable. Robert Lewis and William Hendricks tackle that huge can of worms in this supremely practical book, filled with lots of examples. And today I thought I’d share a list of the best Christian marriage books that will help your marriage this year. But I’ve included the ones that resonated the most with me.
But only one marriage ended up happy, because in only one marriage did the woman learn how to draw boundaries effectively so that they were each treating each other with respect, in a Christlike manner.
Most couples have no idea how to draw boundaries and how to resolve conflict.
This is a really practical book, and it will open your eyes to some of the roots of conflict in your marriage. Sometimes in order to build a great marriage we need to start saying “No”–no to overfunctioning, “no” to caring what other people think, “no” to feeling guilty.
In The Emotionally Healthy Woman, Geri Scazzero tells the story of how she was way too busy. She allowed her husband to never be home because she felt that’s what a good Christian wife did.
Their family only started to heal and grow together in a healthy way when she started learning to say “No”. Here’s what I really appreciated about the book: they didn’t just say “here’s what the wife should do” or “here’s what the husband should do”.
A great book for any woman who feels exhausted and wonders how to stop the frantic pace of life! They also provided a blueprint of what a spouse can do when the other ISN’T fulfilling their role.