Are you saying that you won't fall right back into that "too busy, job isolated, no getting out pattern" once you get comfortable in your relationship? YOU are not ready for love if this is your philosophy.
Know what you are asking Together® to do for you, "FORCE someone to go on a date with you." This is unlike any of the online matching services - where people have the option of meeting you or not.
You have a better opportunity of finding someone who is appealing through a self paced "browse" method. Do you send someone who doesn't know you at all to go do your grocery store shopping? "The purpose of Together® is to help me find someone because I don't know how to find anyone.
I had more in common with the one who is 21 years older than with most of the women who were the same age or younger.
We had completely different backgrounds, spiritual concepts, and attitudes - yet we got along.
I know many a military man that has married a woman who can't speak any English, grew up in dire poverty, and is a completely different person than they had ever been with before.
It's actually what you don't have in common that makes or breaks a relationship. I have dated women up to 8 years younger than me, the same general age as me, and up to 21 years older than me.
And so goes the principal behind most dating services.Dating services rely on the promise of poetry and the power of statistics.