This is boring for Person B, because there’s no mystery.Mystery, and not knowing whether or not the person you’re talking to is interested in you (at least for the first five minutes, or the first two or three emails), is a very good thing.On the Internet, it’s even easier to come up with a reason for a particular person to help you out with something, because they’ve spelled it out for you in their profile.For example, I met my current boyfriend on the Internet by asking him about triathlons. You’ve carefully chosen corroborating pictures that make you look socially well-adjusted and fun, and you (and your mother) consider yourself a solid catch. Basically, people want what they don’t know they have, or don’t have. You’ve made a mistake so common; no one even knows there’s a better way. First, let’s look at what happens when someone hits on (i.e. For example, I once went up to this guy at a party and said the highly original and clever one-liner: “Hi.” Instead of responding in kind, he gave me the once over and said, “No.” While his brevity was admirable, his socially mal-adjusted response is an excellent example of what happens when Person A hits on Person B.It’s a problem we all face: You find an attractive someone on a dating site. When someone hits on someone else, they fall into this trap.You craft a witty, fun, complimentary and intelligent email and send it off, and two weeks go by with no reply. Saying “Hi” definitely counts, as does sending an email that in any way, shape or form says anything resembling “You’re attractive to me. ” The person being approached (Person B) knows they “have” the approacher (Person A), because Person A just made it abundantly clear that they’re interested in Person B.
His profile picture was of him before a race, and his profile talked a lot about triathlon training. He told me later that he was intrigued by the fact he didn’t know whether or not it was a date, and that’s why he replied. By asking about something that they’re clearly knowledgeable about, you have guaranteed subject matter to discuss on the actual date.I was mildly interested in triathlons at the time, so I emailed him and said I was interested in knowing more about the sport, and would he mind meeting me for coffee so I could pick his brain. So, the more descriptive you are on your profile, the better.