Meet Sooner Than Later: Exchanging dozens of emails and phone calls before meeting in person may feel safer, but a date is a more efficient way of gathering information.There's only so much you can learn about someone without actually meeting them.For example, ending a date early may feel awkward, but is it more awkward than leading someone on or committing to another awkward date you don't want to attend?On one occasion, I squashed a date before it began.Online dating was actually less scary than it initially sounded. During my six months, I communicated with some strange people and received even stranger emails, but most everyone respected my space and nobody made me feel unsafe. Rules Can Be Helpful, but Leave Room for an Exception: After numerous dates, I came to some conclusions based upon initial judgments of peoples' profiles and communications.
Be Direct Even If it Feels Counterintuitive: If directness is challenging for you as it is for me, use online dating as an opportunity to practice being assertive and try not to be too hard on yourself when you fail. Being direct will keep uncomfortable situations from becoming worse and prevent you from wasting your time or anyone else's, even if it may feel rude.I visited many coffee shops, over-analyzed a lot of emails, and learned more about myself than I wanted to know. So you find that a persistent emailer also shares an appreciation for the same hipster Icelandic band, but everything else about him or her turns you off.It might feel tempting to toss caution to the wind, because Sigur Rós, but don't. One friend cautioned me to never date a "one-picture person," also known as an individual who only displays one photo of themselves on their profile.A great pen pal won't necessarily equate an ideal life partner.
When I realized I had arranged a date with a one-picture person, I considered bailing.But, had I not left room for one exception, I wouldn't have met my husband.3. Know When to Move on and When to Use Them to Your Advantage: In the real world, people generally don't leave you hanging. At some point, you'll begin exchanging emails with someone and then, all of a sudden, you'll never hear from them again. The other person will often cease to reply instead of informing you he or she is no longer interested.