In my last post, I discussed the DOs and DON’Ts of handling rejection in dating.Rejection is an unavoidable part of dating, and the sooner you learn to put it in perspective, the better.As I discuss in my books, don’t blame yourself and don’t blame others. There is no one, and I mean NO ONE, who can’t get dates or find a partner who’s attractive and well-matched to you.I hear men bitch that you have to be gorgeous or rich to get dates, and I hear women bitch that you have to be gorgeous or young to attract men. But, statistically, most of us aren’t gorgeous or rich, and we still manage to get dates.Rejection Principles First, recognize your problem. Or, as one reader pointed out, you need to consider whether you’re aiming out of your league. If the former, you probably broke a date etiquette rule, e.g. The latter can’t be helped, but the former can be due to various fundamental dating mistakes.After multiple dates, if chemistry (attraction) and compatibility aren’t sufficient enough, you won’t move into relationship-ville.
However, that article dealt with rejection in general, the kind of rejection that happens to every person who’s single and out there making an effort. What do you do when you keep getting rejected, when you can’t get a date, can’t make it past the first date or dates?Repeated rejection can devastate a person’s confidence.