The fact that you are Black and your partner isn’t doesn’t mean she or he isn’t prejudiced against other people who look like you or that your partner can't commit racist acts.A person could hold on to racist beliefs and still believe that “you’re one of the good ones."I met my first girlfriend during my sophomore year of high school. Race wasn’t the only reason why we broke up within weeks, but the fact that I was a Black boy certainly didn’t make things easier.This is a touchy topic, as Ernest Baker wrote in Gawker:"There are self-hating Black men who date white women for contrived and pathetic reasons, and I hate them.Racism is a beast whose tentacles touch everything, from public policy and interpersonal interactions to academia and the Academy Awards.People interact with that monster in various ways, including ways that reinforce white supremacy.When I told her she was being pretty racist, she grew indignant, and said the fact that was with me was a defense. Looking back, the whole episode left me with a lot of shame for even being with somebody like that and with a lot of distrust that discouraged me from dating outside my race for years.All Black guys who date outside their race aren’t doing it because Black women are too much to deal with or because Black women aren't beautiful enough.Since many young people lack experience dating a person from another racial group, that provides fertile ground for stereotypes to persist.
Support for interracial dating and marriage has been on the rise for decades, and Millennials are particularly accepting: 88 percent of those surveyed by Fusion last year said they were open to dating outside their race.
But the reality is that only 54 percent said they had actually done so.