After Joel and I released a podcast on the INFJ personality, we received an overwhelming response from (the Myers-Briggs type) INTJ for more information on understanding their type. That makes sense – these two types (the INFJ and the INTJ) are almost certainly the most misunderstood by both others and by themselves.
I’d almost argue that INFJs are a little easier to understand.
That might be because my mother is an INFJ and I grew up around her, but there’s something about the acute pain an INFJ experiences that is an entrance into understanding them.
As if the pain, itself, was a foot in the door of entering in and seeing the whole picture.
2) They are built like arthropods, and have an exoskeleton. Unlike the INFJ type that uses a ‘hard candy shell’ as protection against the world, an INTJ’s exoskeleton is a necessary part of their makeup. If you don’t see past the hard exterior and acknowledge just how vulnerable the inner world is, you cannot understand this type.
But like all things we come out of the hatch with, it can be used defensively. Before we talk about all that, let’s look at The Car Model for the INTJ personality type: The Driver is Perspectives.
As an ENTP, INTJs are my “Power Pair,” and there’s no doubt that I’ve found myself surrounded by them my entire life.
I’ve lived with them, worked with them, fought with them, coached them, made love to and been rendered jelly while kissing them… For all of my experience with INTJs, there are a couple of crucial components without which I don’t think you can really understand this type: 1) An INTJ is almost invariably smarter than the vast majority of people in analytical, existential, and linguistic intelligence.