I'd messed around on Tinder in the past with some success, but while I'm clearly a scumbag, I'm a scumbag who doesn't want to get caught.I've found that meeting someone on Tinder involves double the amount of lying – lying to my wife about what I'm up to, but also lying to my matches about my situation.Some of these profiles cut right to the promise of whatever sick shit turns you on.So I set up a profile on Ashley Madison, posted a discreet photo and bought some credits in the hope that I might eventually meet some other married sex addicts. However, most of these con artists have the sophistication of a Nigerian 419 scammer and are fairly easy to spot.One of their biggest flaws is that they use photos of porn stars for their profile pics, without realising that most AM users probably spend more time watching porn than they do playing with their kids.The second is written by a woman whose marriage has gone stale, ends up using the site, maybe has sex and learns some valuable life lessons by doing so. Background: I'm 40ish, a college professor in the UK, an upstanding member of the local community, married with kids. Or, I'd admit to being a sex addict if I actually accepted that was a real disease, as opposed to just a term used to pathologise people who like sex a lot, particularly the weird stuff.
If I were trying to justify that last statement, I'd say that my wife belongs to the latter category, but that would be a lie.
She's as addicted to sex as anyone, except that for some weird reason she only wants to have sex with me.
If you google around for articles about Ashley Madison, the online dating site for married people, you'll usually end up reading variations on one of two pieces.
The first is an article by a male journalist who signs up to the site "purely for research purposes", meets some women as part of his research, doesn't have the decency to actually sleep with them and then uses this research to draw shoddy conclusions about the kind of women who use the site.
As good a liar as I am, keeping up this level of deceit can be tiring.Ashley Madison seemed like a way of addressing both problems.