This is the core thinking of the partner who initiates hot/cold, and serves as their safety net to vulnerability. Because relationship uncertainty makes human beings yearn for stability.This is often misconstrued as a level of desperation where we are just looking for anyone who is attracted to us in return.The truth is that apathy and disinterest are not exactly things that will attract us to a woman, so naturally the opposite is also true. We are accustomed to being the ones who have to show interest, especially at first.Or, women may see responsive men as eager to please, or even desperate,” Birnbaum said. One minute you're high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you're frozen out and left wondering what happened. Whether you call it push/pull, on/off, or hot and cold, the end result is the same. Whether done consciously or unconsciously, this type of behavior activates longing and pursuit. If we don't understand the game of hot and cold, we can find ourselves pulled into a drama of confusion. Understanding this type of behavior is crucial even for those of you committed to not playing games.So as a woman, you are consistently told that you shouldn’t show too much interest in a man. If all of this was such great advice, then why are so many women who follow it still single? While this is sound advice in the respect that you should of course never lower your standards and accept advances from just any random man who shows interest in you, it is too broad to really be useful.
They also showed more interest in having long-term relationships with the responsive women than with the nonresponsive women.” Now, as a man, this is not news.I can already tell you that if a woman shows interest in me, I will be more interested in her.