Romance, if not checked, may mean wasting time, effort and dignity. Besides, the concept of love in Islam is very unique, when a Muslim loves something or somebody, it must be for the sake of Allah; the same applies to hatred.The romantic notions that occupy the mind of young people often have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved.There is no room in Islam for illicit affairs or the Western vogue-word of boyfriend and girlfriend.All those stories of media and movies are not helpful to make a person comply with the teachings of Islam.The unrealistic expectation that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.
We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the West to understand this point.
In most cases, romance and love die out very quickly when couple find themselves with the real world.
You may be surprised to learn the subject of Divorce - is also mentioned and dealt with in very clear terms, to insure that it does not happen except with due consideration and proper representation and insurance of rights for both parties.
Marriage in Islam is a beautiful way for two people to bring together their families, heritage and culture for the purpose of bringing more little Muslims into the world, in love, commitment and dedication to Allah, His Book, His prophet, peace be upon him, and surrender to Him in peace (Islam).
That is very important because it is unreasonable for two people to be thrown into marriage and be expected to have a successful marital life, full of love and affection, when they know nothing of each other. This ruling does not contradict the Qur'anic verse that says, “…believing men and women should lower their gaze” (An-Nur: 30).The couple, however, are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone.